Coaching and Healing Basics, Ch 1 - Childhood Matters

Artwork by Bo Sapphire. www.littlegemgallery.com

Why Coaching?

Why go see someone to be seen and heard? How can one grow in the current zeitgeist?

For the past several years, we’ve been hurtled through an intense series of changes. With the advent of AI, the speed of change only seems to be accelerating. In the effort to keep up, we often lose ourselves while trying to meet demands. The adaptive strategies that once carried us forward no longer seem to work. One finds oneself at a loss—of perspective, of direction, of self.

Childhood Matters

By the time we reach our tenth year, I believe we have already received the wound. This wound is woven into the incredible surge of growth, learning, and development that marks our early lives. Childhood is a time of absolutes—when “always,” “forever,” and “never” feel real. That sense of absoluteness becomes the gloss that surrounds the wound, whatever form it takes.

By the age of 28, we usually have some understanding of what that wound is—or we find ourselves living out choices made long ago by the parts of us that learned to survive it. Growth has slowed, and with enough life experience behind us, we begin to look back: Why does my heart feel heavy? Why does my momentum feel blocked? Why do I long for a presence that can guide me through what lies ahead?

A brief return to childhood is necessary—to remember, reflect, recalibrate, and return with new awareness.

The wound, once only a source of pain, now becomes your sparring partner—and your ally.